Solitude vs Isolation: An Opportunity

This is not strictly related to aerialists, but we’re just people, and now we’re all in the same boat. So I’m expanding the scope of my blog and delivering another part of myself that I think is more useful right now.

At this moment people are experiencing varying degrees of isolation, loneliness, fear, boredom, frustration. 

  • Some people are isolated because they are confirmed sick with coronavirus. 
  • Some people are isolated because they have been near people with the virus.
  • Some people are isolated because it has been mandated.
  • Some are isolated because they are symptomatic but aren’t sure what they have.
  • Some are isolated because they are in a high-risk population. 
  • Some are isolated because they are aggressively social distancing.

Thank you. 
And I’m sorry.
It certainly sucks. 

It is time to consider the difference between isolation and solitude. 
We can generally accept that isolation is not chosen, but solitude is. 
Isolation leads to negative emotions, narrow thinking, self-pity.
Solitude leads to intimacy with a range of emotions, reflection, self-knowledge.

We didn’t choose to be alone at this time because we wanted to. However, you can transform a period of isolation into a period of solitude.

How?
By laying claim to it. By owning and shaping it. If you are SICK, you have a different task, and that is to rest and ride it out.
But if you have health and energy, you have an opportunity to transform your present experience. 

  • Set your phone aside. Turn on some music. Move around your room. 
  • Pick up a journal. Do a brain dump. 
  • Speak with yourself. What does your highest self have to say to you?
  • Connect with your child self. Visualize them. What was their joy? Their sorrow? Hug them.
  • Write a letter to someone you are angry with. And maybe rewrite it in a day or two. 
  • Meditate. 
  • Take 30 consecutive deep breaths.
  • Pick up a creative project long forgotten. 
  • Create something beautiful.
  • Do yoga. 
  • Write about what you really want in your life. 
  • Cry.
  • You might as well dance, since nobody is watching. 
  • Make a list of the most beautiful things you can remember.
  • Write a memoir of a childhood experience.
  • ​Do a demon feeding
  • Sing.
  • If you are able, go outdoors. Walk.
  • Listen to an album from beginning to end.

We’re not used to being alone, and we’re liable to blow it by staying overly connected on our phones and computers. I strongly support online interaction right now, but space it out. Interrupt it periodically with time to go inward. It will do marvelous things for you.